Comfort zones are necessary. Our brain was meant for survival. Working easier, smoother, smarter was a prerequisite for survival. What a brilliant survival skill! Can you blame it? However, in today's brain, comfort zones are great to shut down, recoup, and dare I say, 'autopilot'.
But how does it keep you SMALL? How does a comfort zone all of sudden mean you've lost your voice, your guidance, your entire map to happiness??? One day, noticing your voice keeps you stuck and disconnected from your own desires. And you just thought you were in a 'comfort zone'. Comfort zone of life, relationships, work, health.
Our body, our soul, knows our TRUTH. When we disconnect from our greatest source of knowledge, our body, our truth is also silenced. On the contrary, letting it out, whatever the cost, allows you FREEDOM. Consequences or results should not hold us back from setting our soul free and creating our biggest DESIRES, yet it does. Again, survival. We are programmed to live, to persevere. Yet, sometimes , we forget that the results of unleashing these feelings are not death but LIFE.
Often in business, the message is, "if you are speaking to everyone, you are speaking to no one". This is the same for all areas of your life. By attempting to please everyone, be pleasing to everyone, be a version of yourself without rough edges and that everyone can appeal to keeps your truth numb.
Many times we show up, placid, soft, smooth, trying not rock the boat. Or trying to be stormy, ferocious, loud, yet likable. Inauthentic. If we are like nature, what storm ever achieved such a report card?
Also, who does that serve? Certainly not me and not the others I attempt to connect with. Letting go and becoming more can be SO scary. Can the greatest losses also bring the greatest freedom? We tend to focus on the negative, it's our brains way to protect us.
The truth is scary. Rejection is scary. But being disconnected to yourself causes far worse pain, illness, or depression. It can cause lasting, insidious pain, and wounds that can only be minimized by time. When we let someone else make decisions for our own heart and soul, that we know is true, we lose our own power, conversely, taking the reins nourishes self to be the best version. We teach self to rely on the inside and also create new (neural) pathways in our brain that feel like the best comfort zone ever.
Where can you show up more in your life? What truth are you unwilling to face? Be courageous enough to break out of the comfort zones and make changes where it doesn't serve YOU.