Vulnerability is a Strength
I went through most of my life thinking that I had to mask my feelings and emotions. In moments where I would be crying, I found myself quickly drying my eyes and telling myself to “get over it”. I didn’t realize that this behavior was destroying me more than it was helping me. Being vulnerable to me was a weakness and being seen as weak was a no. It wasn’t until I got older that I realized that being open and transparent takes more courage than holding everything in. That’s when I realized that vulnerability isn’t a weakness but a strength.
The idea of being emotionally exposed scared me at first because I didn’t want to be taken advantage of. Once I started to be more open about myself and with myself, I felt at ease. I still don’t cry in front of people, probably something I will never do, but I have no problems with expressing how I feel to someone. Being vulnerable helps when it comes to relationships (family, friends, significant other, etc.) When you are genuine about how you really feel instead of holding everything in expecting others to already know how you feel, it helps that person get a better understanding.
Suppressing your feelings can lead to anger, sadness, resentment, and can also get serious and lead to depression. Even though we live in a time where showing emotions and catching feelings isn’t wanted, it is important that we do so. Often time friendships and relationships end because people don’t communicate how they feel and something as simple saying “I love you” or “I’m sorry” can save relationships. Don’t think that being the bigger person or showing affection will make you seem weak; it doesn’t. Instead of ignoring someone after an argument, take the time to sit down and talk it out. Instead of expecting someone to know that you appreciate and love them, take the time out to say it. Another thing, be honest and open with yourself.
Vulnerability isn’t to hurt you or humiliate you. It’s a good way to heal and move forward in situations. Don’t think that opening up will ruin a relationship because most times a friend, family member or significant other is dying to know how you really feel whether it be after an argument or expressing love to one another.